What Does Your Perfect Day Look Like?

I recently listened to an episode of Alex Charfen’s podcast about the perfect day. It really had me thinking about how I run my business and I want you to think about it too.

So, take a minute to dream a little. Close your eyes and get a really good vision in your mind of your perfect day. What does it look like?

Is it a day of spending time with your favorite clients? Is it having enough white space to spend extra time with family or just for some “me time.” Is it having he space to create that new service or write that book? Or, maybe it is just a day where you are not spending putting out fires or dealing with emergencies?!

What if your perfect day was possible every day? Well, guess what? It is. It may take some planning and some initial work, but it is possible. Here’s how:

Step One:

Get a clear picture of what you really want your perfect day to look like. You can’t have your perfect day, week, month, year, or life if you don’t know what that day is supposed to look like.

If possible, take some time to write it down. Be as specific as you can. The more specific and detailed the better.

Step Two:

Create an actionable and achievable plan. What are the things that you will need to do or get done in order to create that perfect day/life? What is the timeline / deadline for each of those things? What changes in my mindset and/or business will I have to make in order to achieve my goal of the perfect day/life?

Step Three:

Build your team. If you don’t have any team members in place at the moment, now is the time to start thinking about building a team. You can’t create a thriving and successful business, while having a balanced life, by yourself.

If you are leery, or don’t know where to start, start small. Can you bring on a Virtual Assistant, graphic designer, social media manager, or content writer? If you already have a small team, can you bring on an Online Business Manager, to take over the daily operations of your business or to manage your team?

Step Four:

Automate, automate, automate. Automation is the key to running your business rather than it running you. Even if you have some automation in your business, it can always be improved!

Step Five:

Create some systems for your business. Systems are essential to running a smooth business and for allowing you to step away from your business. You probably have systems in your business but don’t realize it. However, now is the time to be intentional about creating sustainable systems.

Tina Forsyth recommends the following systems: backup systems, money systems, scheduling systems, communication systems, metric systems, marketing systems, relationship systems, sales systems delivery systems, and business foundational systems. Do you have systems in place for each of these areas of your business?

Once these steps are completed, it doesn’t mean that you will automatically have the perfect day/life, of course. From these steps you can work on creating and tweaking the best work/life balance that you want. Your perfect day will change as your priorities, wants, and needs change, too. However, these steps will give you the starting point you need to get going.

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P.S. When you are ready, here are four ways I can support you in your business:

1.  Snag a copy of the free report, “5 Ways an Online Business Manager can Impact Your Business and Increase Your Profits.“

In this report you will discover just how much freedom and success you can have in your business if you stop doing everything alone.

2. “Like” my Facebook page.

It is the place to be to get free weekly training, support, and encouragement in growing and automating your business.

3. Sign up for a Business Audit Mini-VIP Session.

During this session, you will discover the gaps and holes in your business processes, where in  your business you can delegate and automate, and get a strategy to help you make more money, take better care of your clients, and create a better work/life balance.

4. Work with me and my team privately.

I have several packages and programs to help you run a successful, profitable, and enjoyable business. I can help you see the big picture of your business and then create a strategy to move your business forward. Then, I can help you implement that strategy. Take a moment to learn more and get on my calendar today.

3 Business Lessons 15 Years of Marriage Taught Me

Technically, I am a little “late” with this post because my husband and I actually celebrated our 15-year wedding anniversary a few weeks ago. However, the lessons are still valid, so I am going to go ahead and share them anyway.

3 Business Lessons 15 Years of Marriage Taught Me

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In reality, I learned many more than 3 lessons (both business and personal) in the last 15 years of marriage but here are the top three business lessons:

1. Manage Expectations

One thing I learned rather quickly in my marriage is that my husband can’t read my mind. 🙂 No one can. So, it has been important for my husband and I to be as clear as possible in regards to what our expectations are in as many scenarios as possible.

Business Translation: When you bring on a new client, team member, contractor/vendor, or anyone else. Be as clear as you can in explaining your expectations for the relationship. Make sure they understand your policies, procedures, how to handle conflict/problems, the importance of deadlines, or anything else that you want them to understand about you and how you run your business. Don’t expect them to “just know” or read your mind. They can’t.

On the flip side, make sure you have a clear understanding of their expectations too. What are their policies, understanding of deadlines, etc.? Make sure you are both on the same page before you start working together.

AND, make sure you revisit your (and their) expectations as things or projects change. You will (and should) have many conversations about expectations during the course of your business relationships.

2. Give the other person the benefit of the doubt

Let’s get real. Misunderstandings are going to happen. Disagreements are going to happen. My husband and I have had (and will continue to have) arguments and/or difficulties. It is part of relationships so matter how well you manage expectations. And, it may be just me (is it?!) but sometimes it is so much easier to jump to conclusions and expect the worst from my husband (or other people). It took a while before I realized this and now, when misunderstandings happen, I can remind myself that my husband isn’t the devil incarnate and give him the benefit of the doubt! LOL

Business Translation: In your business, you are going to have conflict and misunderstandings with clients, team members, vendors and contractors. Know it, accept it, and deal with it. How? First of all, take a few minutes to breathe, calm down, and get yourself under control before confronting the person with the offense or mistake. It IS possible she/he doesn’t even realize that an offense has occurred.

Second, remind yourself that the person probably isn’t trying to sabotage you and your business or committed the offense on purpose. Give the person the benefit of the doubt. (Yes, that does happen, but most of the time – if you are partnered with the right people – they aren’t trying to harm you or your business.)

Third, arrange a time with that person to talk in person or over the phone about the situation. You don’t even have to say what it is about right away. You can say something like, “Hey, I’d like to talk to you about something. When would be a good time to talk?” Email or text isn’t going to cut it here. Too much is missed or taken the wrong when in text form. So, do your best to talk calmly with the person about the situation.

3. Forgive and don’t hold grudges

All spouses hurt each other once in a while and my husband and I are no exception. I have done or said things that hurt my husband and he has done the same to me. I don’t know about other couples, but for us, the first year of marriage was HARD. We learned early on that it is important to forgive each other, as hard as that can sometimes be. No one is perfect, and forgiving and letting go is essential to a healthy relationship. Holding grudges and bringing up past issues in every argument or fight isn’t healthy or good for a marriage.

Business Translation: Your team, your clients, your colleagues, in fact everyone, is going to make mistakes. They may unintentionally (or occasionally, intentionally) hurt you. They are going to do something or say something that you don’t like or that hurt you in some way. So, you are going to have some decisions to make.

I encourage you to start with point number two and give them the benefit of the doubt and talk to them about the problem. Then, forgive them, let it go, and move on with the business relationship. However, if the problem persists or the person is difficult or even unwilling to work on the business relationship, you may have the difficult task of ending the relationship, even if it means loss of income or having to find a new service or vendor. Only you can decide if it is worth trying to rebuild the relationship or not.

If that is the case, and you have to end the working relationship, it doesn’t relieve you of the duty to forgive and not hold grudges. We don’t forgive other people for their sake but for our own. It is unhealthy to hold on to the past, especially to situations that have hurt us. If you need to, talk to someone who can help you work through it. Even the best business and life coaches need coaches! So, hire your own coach, get rid of those blocks that are holding you back, and allow yourself to let go. It can only make everything better for you and your business!

Hey, now it is your turn! What the biggest lesson you have learned so far in your marriage or life? Do share in the comments.

Why Motivation Doesn’t Work (and What to do Instead)

(I have to cancel this Facebook live due to unforeseen circumstances. I will try to reschedule so look for a post. Otherwise, I will be live next Thursday at the usual time – 1pm EST)

Don’t get me wrong, motivation is great. There is nothing wrong with it. Motivation is inspirational and can lift a person up. I have done “Motivational Mondays” in the past and reading and posting motivational quotes and talks.

The problem I have is that motivational quotes or talks don’t really work for many people and here’s the main reason why:

Why Motivation Doesn't Work

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 It Only Motivates Motivated People

It is pretty rare that someone who isn’t motivated to do something, no matter what it is, to be motivated by something they read or hear. I’m not saying it never happens. There are people who read or hear something, has an ah-ha moment, and it motivates them to make a change or do something.

However, for the most part, if a person isn’t motivated, and she/he reads/hears something motivational, the reaction is usually, “that’s nice,” and she/he keeps going as she/he is.

There are other reasons, and I will be talking about 3 of them during tomorrow’s Facebook Live, so you will have to join me to hear them. 🙂 (How’s that for being cheeky?!)

What Should You Do Instead?

Get a result. Success builds on success. There is a reason why most, if not all, diet programs scream out: “Lose Weight Fast!” Or, lose, “5 pounds in 5 days!”

Do the same for yourself. Set yourself up for a small success, build confidence in yourself, and then go for the next win, and then the next.

I will use myself as an example: I have been wanting to do videos for a LONG time but have been putting it off. Then live video came on the scene and I freaked out a bit. But, I am determined to get over my fear. So I did my first FB Live. It wasn’t perfect, but I got through it. Then I did another one (which was worst than the first), then another. I have a long way to go but as I build my confidence, I am motivated to keep going. It wasn’t a quote or a “go get them” that motivated me to get moving, or to keep moving; it is the success building on success that is keeping me motivated!

Let it be the same for you. 🙂

And guess what, surprise, surprise!, I will be expounding on this more, as well as offering a couple other suggestions that work better than motivation during my Facebook Live tomorrow (Thursday). So, make sure you like my page and be there at 1 pm EST. 🙂

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P.S. When you are ready, here are four ways I can support you in your business:

1.  Snag a copy of the free report, “5 Ways a Virtual Administrative Support Specialist can Impact Your Business and Increase Your Profits.“

In this report you will discover just how much freedom and success you can have in your business if you stop doing everything alone.

2. “Like” my Facebook page.

It is the place to be to get free weekly training, support, and encouragement in growing and automating your business.

3. Sign up for a Business Audit Mini-VIP Session.

During this session, you will discover the gaps and holes in your business processes, where in  your business you can delegate and automate, and get a strategy to help you make more money, take better care of your clients, and create a better work/life balance.

4. Work with me and my team privately.

I have several packages and programs to help you run a successful, profitable, and enjoyable business. I can help you see the big picture of your business and then create a strategy to move your business forward. Then, I can help you implement that strategy. Take a moment to learn more and get on my calendar today.