What to do When Writing Falls by the Wayside

I haven’t written much in a while, not just a blog post here, but any writing at all. It feels like forever. I didn’t intend not to write but “life” got in the way. I was in the hospital, my husband was in the hospital, then all three of us got colds. We have been traveling a lot, and I have been chauffeuring my son to all sorts of activities.

What to do when writing goes by the wayside

When I look at all the reasons I haven’t done any writing they look like just excuses. I suppose that’s what they are. I have so much that I want (have) to do that I can get paralyzed and not get anything done. Has that ever happened to you? If so, you are not alone.

Here is what I am doing to get over the writing slump:

Own it

For me, the first step is acknowledging those reasons and/or excuses that have kept me from writing, head on. You can’t change the past so there is no use dwelling on it. However, it is good to take a look at which reasons are valid and which ones are just excuses and go deeper into the why.

Is it fear holding me back? Maybe. Probably. Fear of what? Sometimes people self-sabotage because they have fears they don’t want to admit. Writing is such a personal and vulnerable thing, especially when it is published. There is fear of rejection. Fear that no one will like your writing. Fear that it won’t sell and so on.

In my case, it was mostly health issues that prevented me from writing. It is also because I have a strong sense of overwhelm. I have so many things I want to write, nonfiction and fiction, that I don’t know where to begin!

Give Yourself Grace

Like I said before, you can’t change the past. There is no use beating yourself up for not reaching your writing goals or not taking the time to write at all. Welcome to the human race. No one is perfect and that’s okay. It is more than okay. Being human, in all its imperfections is awesome. πŸ™‚

So, give yourself grace. Throw all those self-defeating lies out the window and forget about what was. Now it is time to focus on what is.

Start again, slowly.

If you want to get back to writing, do it. Take out your calendar and pick a day and time to write. Make it a nonnegotiable appointment and keep it. BUT, keep it small – 10 or 15 minutes tops. Begin making these appointments a regular thing and then increase the length as you are able.

It doesn’t have to be every day. Once a week is great. Every other week works too. Make a plan that you can work with and that won’t overwhelm you.

Or, pick a small project to start with. Write a 1000 word flash fiction piece or (as in my case) write a blog post. I am also getting into the swing of writing by putting together a couple of coaching packages that I have been meaning to get posted.

Create a ritual

Rituals or habits are a great way to center yourself and get into the mood for writing. For me, writing is best done after I have completed my morning routine, checked my email, and have a bottle of water (or cup of tea) at my side. Most of the time I can do this before the rest of the family is up. If not, I have a back up!

My second best writing time is in the afternoon after lunch is done and my son is occupied. It isn’t always my best writing because I am a definite morning person, but it is writing nevertheless. πŸ™‚

Your turn!

What do you do when I have taken a writing hiatus (on purpose or otherwise)? How do you get back on track? Please share!

Next Steps

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It’s June 1st. How is Your Year Going?

Can you believe that we are half way through 2017? It is crazy how time is flying by so fast! I think it is a good time to take a look at how things are going and revamp some things.

It is funny how everyone makes goals and plans in January just to abandon them a couple (or few) months later. But, the thing is, every day is a chance for a new beginning – and so is every month or quarter. So let me encourage you: If you have made plans or goals in January that haven’t planned out, take a little time to create new ones or to tweak the old ones.

Every Day is a New Beginning

For me, this year is not panning out like I had planned at all. In some ways, I feel really behind but in other ways I feel like I am growing and evolving, which is a good thing!

My word for 2017 is courage. I thought that meant doing certain things for growing my business but it has turned out to be more personal. It was a tough school year for my son, especially academically, and we had to navigate and adjust to the challenge. It wasn’t easy but we got through it! On top of that, Andrew had a lot of activities and events – as well as other events in our family – which forced me out of my introverted self a lot of the time.

Business wise, it has been interesting too. I haven’t spent much time here on the blog like I had expected, but at the same time, I have been growing my personal blog in ways I didn’t expect. I started a coaching mentoring program and am beginning to offer personal life coaching! This is definitely out of my comfort zone but also rewarding. It has been on my heart for a long time and so I will follow the prompting for as long as it leads.

What does that mean for carolda.com? Not much. Writing is in my blood and so is proofreading and editing so I will continue with those! I can’t imagine giving up this part of my life. And, since I have the space to continue with these endeavors, I will. πŸ™‚

I would love to hear from you. Is 2017 shaping up the way you expect? Is it better than you expected or have you been thrown a curve ball or two? How will you tweak the rest of the year to make it what you want it to be?

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If You Could Change One Thing…

If you could change one thing in your life, what would it be? It can be something about your career/writing, your relationships, something personal – anything.

If You Could Change Your Life

How would your life look like if that particular thing is changed? How would your life be better?

Now, What is ONE THING you can do today – right this minute even – to make that change happen. Or to at least start the process?

You see, Big changes – or any change –Β  in our lives can happen if we take small consistent action, one step at a time. Wishing, hoping, and grumbling only leaves us stuck in the same place, but little action steps keep us in the right direction.

Therefore, for the next 30 days, ask yourself what action step can you take today to move forward. Then, after the 30 days are up, savor the progress you have made and look to see what you have accomplished!

So, again: What is the one thing you want to change in your life today? What little step – what concrete action – are you going to take to begin the process of changing that one thing? Now do it!

**BONUS POINTS and some Accountability if you dare to share that one thing either publicly in the comments or privately through email/message!